Have I failed? These days it seems I feel that way much of the time. Strange that I should feel this way given that for over 50 years I have coached people in a way that has them say that I have made a difference in the quality of their lives.

One of the ways, of course, was coaching my basketball teams. However, when I look back at those times, it is a minor miracle that was the case. Mostly, I think I exceeded the expectations of my players. Not bad, but hardly earth-shattering.

After I stopped coaching basketball I took stock of how I had done. My record was above average. Never had a losing season at the college level. Had some conference championships and Coach-of-the-Year honors. I am even in a couple of Halls-of-Fame. But, …

Here’s the rub … when I knew I was going to coach (6th grade), and as I moved through my time as a performer, I knew I would win an NCAA or NBA championship for sure. Maybe more than one. I never stressed about it. Just knew I could. And I never did.

I could rationalize that coaching basketball was just preparation for what I do now. And, to a certain extent, I think it to be true. Armed with a powerful technology for impacting performance, how could I miss? Especially since our culture is so involved with competitive athletics. I am able to reach people, but I think I have fallen short.

The work has been successful, but in the process I think my life is a failure. Three divorces prove to be ironic given the theme of my company is “Relationship is the key to Everything.” Four great kids who I am sure
are surprised that I could make a difference with anyone. A financial failure although money was not my motivation for doing anything.

I have , maybe, three true friends. Guys that I know would be there in time of need, no matter what. And, I am a relationship expert? Go figure. Since I am no longer a child I do take responsibility for everything. I lay no blame on anyone else for anything I have just said. I have loved doing what I have done. Maybe that’s enough. I just hope I have actually made the difference I intended.