I rarely run into anyone who isn’t “busy.” I am never sure the nature of their “busy-ness.” However, I hear it so much that I have an idea of what a great deal of being busy is about.
I think a couple of things are at play here. Number One is that being busy is a racket. You know, as in “racketeer.” It is a ploy to get admiration and a cover-up for not doing what you know you need to do or what you don’t really want to do.
In some cases it is damaging to ourselves. The doctor’s appointment you don’t make when you know there is a danger in not knowing the status of your health. Everyday someone dies of prostate cancer. Why? Because they didn’t catch it in time. It was curable if they had.
Being too busy is a way to avoid responsibility for something. Instead of telling someone how you feel or saying “not interested” we leave the other person in the dark about what we are willing to do and wondering “what’s the deal?” If you don’t want to do something with someone, tell them. Give them a chance to find someone else. It could be that another day you will or at least consider it. Be authentic. You won’t need your cover story.
I want you to look at the times when you are feeling “too busy.” You are pressed and stressed. You are rushing down the river grasping at straws. Consider that maybe your problem is that you don’t have a powerful relationship with priority.
There will always be things happening that you didn’t count on. Three things are a sufficient number of priorities for the day. A commitment to take some action on all three is sufficient. You will go further on some days than others. Priority needs to be determined daily. It could even change during the day. Stuff does happen.
Of course you will do other things during the day. If you have made something a priority your actions need to reflect that. Foundation for establishing priority—your three month life schedule. What is that you are asking?
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