A typical day for human beings is spent reacting to our circumstances. We are limited to putting energy into what we consistently say is wrong and recurring with our life and what we do to overcome what is wrong. These are our strengths, i.e. the things we do best and are known for. We are also known for the things we struggle with. Our identity or who who we say we are has life be exactly what we say.
The rub is that both our best and worst are limitations. Since reactions are the same and perfection is a myth, life is lived and viewed in a way that eliminates access to what is possible. Possibility is a creation in our speaking. It is a willingness to consider the thoughts of our fellow beings as having equal value with ours until we get a possibility that inspires us to action.
There is no “right” possibility. No one knows what will happen anyway and we can’t even see a pathway until we begin. We, of course, have intentions based on our view of what we think is possible. Most people have seen a picture of what a chess board set up to play looks like. The moment we move the first piece that whole picture changes and even though there are recommended first moves they are just choices.
We are now in the world of “coaching in the action.” Sometimes it goes smoothly, but often-times it is chaotic. Either are natural phenomenons. Nothing is wrong. Our problems occur in attempting to order the chaos. This is calming the rough water in a mountain stream.
Navigating the rough water in the action requires quick decisions. It is a function of trusting yourself and the people in the game with you. As a matter of fact, you can’t trust others if you don’t trust yourself. It is based in how you see the future. The river is coercive and like life is often times chaotic. Pulling into shore to figure things out is wasted motion and even impossible at times. There is no such thing as perfection.
Oh, often we may say “that was perfect.” It is only a report “AFTER THE GAME IS OVER.” Often, you know what to do. You hesitate for fear you will not do the “right” thing. Bingo, the opportunity disappears and you are left with woulda, coulda, shoulda. The expert river-rafter is interested in the thrill of the experience, her performance in the rough water and an appreciation of the calm.
Check the bookstore to read and learn more. The books will support you in navigating the river.
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